Archive for May 2012

About Game7Dads

In the book of Malachi, chapter 4, verse 6, the very last verse of the Old Testament, God has sent the prophet Elijah with these instructions:

… he will turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their fathers. Otherwise, I will come and strike the land with a curse.

– Malachi 4:6 (HCSB)
 
Dads, to put it plainly, we have not done the job. I can sit here and type statistics at you for the rest of the day, but we’ve heard it all over and over. We see the news. Teen pregnancy, drug use, school shootings, etc. If we look at it from the perspective of Malachi 4:6, we can see that our land is indeed cursed.
 
I promised no statistics, but here’s one we should all hear. Tonight, 27 million children (that’s 27,000,000) will go to bed without their father in the home. Research from the National Center for Fathering (www.fathers.com), shows that the father’s absence in the home is ”linked to higher rates of poverty, failure in school, teen pregnancy, substance abuse, violent crime, depression, and ultimately a loss of hope.”(1)
 

“Every game from now on is a game 7 mentality.”
– LeBron James, 2012

I’ve set up Game7Dads and Game7Dads.com to help my family and others out there who would like to reverse the trend of father-absence in our country. To put in in terms of sports, which most guys can understand, we’re in Game 7 of a big playoff series, it’s halftime, and folks, we’ve taken a beating. However, as a good coach would tell you, there’s still time to step up and win this series, and give our children what they need to fight the next series.
 
As I build this program, keep in mind that everything posted here is for ALL dads. That includes new dads, old dads, granddads, step-dads, single dads, divorced dads, and adoptive dads like me. It’s also for men who may not even have children, but have chosen to play a role in the life of a child who otherwise would not have a present father figure. Let’s always remember that the goal is not only to be fathers in our home, but to enlist other dads to get in the game as well.
 
Let’s turn it around, guys. Let’s win Game 7.
 
 
 
Sources:
  1. Carey Casey. (2007). Championship Fathering: What Is It?. In Fathers.com. Retrieved 5/3/2012, from http://www.fathers.com/content/index.php?option=com_content&task=section&id=12&Itemid=150.

About Me

So now that you kind of know what Game7Dads is all about, let me tell you a little about me.


My name is Mark. I live in Nashville, Tennessee with my wife and our three awesome sons. The first thing you should know about me is that there is absolutely nothing about me that qualifies me to give anyone fathering “lessons.” My purpose is to share good advise from people who I feel are qualified and to offer some personal opinions and suggestions.

As I said, I have three wonderful sons, all of whom my wife and I adopted. We have two boys from Ethiopia, both adopted in 2010, and one from South Korea, adopted in 2006. The Lord has blessed us tremendously through our adoption journey.

I am a 1995 graduate of Western Kentucky University (go Hilltoppers!) with  B.A.s in Psychology and History. I also have an Associates Design in Software Technology, which I’ve used to find gainful employment as a Software Designer here in the Nashville area.

As you may have already noticed, I am also a huge sports fan. I root for WKU, the University of Tennessee, the Tennessee Titans, the Miami Heat, the Nashville Predators, and the Cincinnati Reds. I have also recently been seen cheering for the Hoosiers, Racers, Knicks, Grizzlies, Mets, and 49ers.


I spend some of my free time as a casual video game player. I mostly play sports games and game where stuff blows up. My favorites include the NCAA Football series, Madden, NBA 2k, and I’ve recently discovered the awesomeness of the FIFA series.


I also enjoy R&B music, particularly the “old” stuff. My favorite bands include Guy, New Edition, Keith Sweat, and Ralph Tresvant. I also like other genres, and some other artists you may find on my iPod are The Doors, Alan Jackson, Aerosmith, Tchaikovsky, and Elvis.

Out of all the titles and roles I’ve given about myself — student, employee, sports fan — the three most important positions that I hold are those of husband, father, and son. I was given this vision of mentoring other fathers at a conference hosted by the organization Iron Sharpens Iron, in Portsmouth, New Hampshire. During that time, I was able to meet and be inspired by two outstanding men of God: Carey Casey, CEO of the National Center for Fathering, and Dr. Dan Erickson, founder of People Matter Ministries. You will be hearing a lot more about and from these men as this vision expands.

Just Part of a Team

The best teams at any level are just that … teams. Tom Brady would be a pretty average quarterback without an outstanding offensive line. Shaquille O’Neal and Kobe Bryant might have one or two less rings without big shots from Derek Fisher and Robert Horry.


There are no small parts, just small players.


My point is this: I don’t intend for this little corner of the web to be the best dads’ blog out there. In fact, I hope every dad who wanders by here decides to start their own blog. The more that do so, the more our message gets out for others to find.


With that said, here are some resources that have been valuable to me as I search for inspiration and motivation as a dad. A great deal of what you find here probably started in one of these places.


Web Sites

  • National Center for Fathering (www.fathers.com)

I had the privilege of meeting Carey Casey, CEO of the National Center, at a conference in April of 2012. During the brief time I was able to speak with Mr. Casey, I knew

Books
  • Championship Fathering, Carey Casey
  • The 21-Day Dad’s Challenge, Carey Casey
  • The Power of a Praying Parent, Stormie Omartian
  • Bringing Up Boys, Dr. James Dobson
  • 52 Things Kids Need From a Dad, Jay K. Payleitner
  • Finding Your Greater “Yes”, Dr. Dan Erickson